The fairy tale is definitely unravelling ...
I am constantly hearing, "I don't do that" and "That's not me" and "I don't want to" and lastly "I'm not that dude" and this is in relation to visiting family ... I'm not talking about distant relatives, but his brothers and sisters. The brother he is closest to, he is content on visiting once every few months and same for phone calls. He doesn't want to make plans to change that because "they would be suspicious." Seriously???!
I think this is reason for serious concern. I am also seeing this in his interactions with others. He doesn't have a close relationship with anyone, including his teenage daughter. I don't want to live my life in a vaccuum, and while I might not be the most family-orientated person, I do value family greatly and try to spent time with them, weekly.
How much can a person change? Can a person truly change?
When I mentioned weekly family visits, he immediately recognized a potential issue and in compromise limited it to my family only and he would "tolerate" it for me. How long would that last? How long until we argue over it? Is toleration going to be good enough?
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